Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and to try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue. ~Rainer Maria Rilke
I know what it's like to feel like you want to make a difference, but not quite know what that is yet.
Below, I've shared a handful of exercises that have been helpful for me and my clients in terms of figuring out which direction to move in. Use them, have fun with them, play with them.
Use the exercises lightly. They aren't meant to be a step-by-step instruction process to your ultimate calling. (There's no such process. Please be weary of those offering one.)
In the meantime, relax, grab a cup of tea, take a few deep breaths and dive in! xo
PS: We aren't meant to traverse the journey alone. I'd like to invite you into my private Facebook community. Even though you might not have a specific "thing" that you're doing yet, you'll find that being in a tribe of likeminded people will help stir your passions and energize your soul. This tends to quicken the process because you start feeling into what might be possible for you. Join by clicking the image below.
Lean Into Your Light Exercises
1. Notice Your Surroundings and Leanings
There are a few things worth noticing in your environment that may guide you to the next step on your path.
Start to notice:
- What books are you intuitively drawn to? The ones you've read more than once or go back to for reference on the regular. What's on your amazon wish list that you haven't let yourself buy because "maybe that's too frivolous." Or, "I should be reading about these kinds of things, not those kinds of things.... " (Though those other kinds of things sure do sound like fun.)
Let your heart lean towards and want what it wants. Take away the judgement and just notice.
- What magazines do you have a really hard time throwing away? What is it about these particular magazines that you're drawn to?
I remember hearing a story of a lady who couldn't throw away her fancy home design magazines -- even though she couldn't afford anything in there. Upon reflection and a little bit of coaching, she realized that the images were really beautiful. And from there, she identified one of her core values of needing to be surrounded by beauty. It was a clue.
What kinds of things do you absolutely love having around in your physical environment? Or what do you wish you had in your environment?
- Maybe you like being surrounded by books -- any particular kind of book? Spirituality? Energy healing? 1920s fashion? Movie-related books? Photo/ Coffee table books? Maybe you dig more magazines? If so, what kind? Start to notice if there's a pattern. Remember, hold this practice lightly. Don't try to figure everything out at once. Just notice.
- Maybe you love having crystals and buddhas and symbolic things in your environment. Do they make you feel more connected to something bigger than yourself? That could be a clue. Do they help you feel calm and relaxed? Clue. Do you just think they're pretty? Clue. :)
- Maybe you love being outside -- you love flowers and fresh air and sunshine... And currently you're stuck in an office all day. Start to get curious about ways you can do to get a little more outdoors inside your life -- maybe you can take short walks around your building or eat outside for lunch. Maybe you can start bringing some plants in your office or frame some pictures of beautiful places you'd like to visit.
2. Who are you crushing on?
I don't mean this literally... though if you want to indulge, permission granted, baby.
By "crushing" I'm talking about who you're admiring out in the world. Who's life do you wish you had? Or who do you wish you could spend one day with? It might be someone as big as Oprah or Béyonce, but it could also be the shop owner down the street or an entrepreneur you follow online. Maybe it's a political thought leader or someone with killer dance moves.
What are the qualities this person has that you wish you had? Admiration of someone else's light is always an indication that we need to turn up the volume on that quality within ourselves. Once you've identified the quality, ask yourself, "What are one or two ways I could express this quality in myself today?
Example: If you admire Oprah's ability to just be herself -- maybe you could wear an outfit that feels uniquely you rather than what you think you're "supposed to" wear. Or you could say NO to an invitation that you always dread saying yes to.
**Important** -- Don't shy away from people you're crushing on who are famous or who have lots of stuff or money (or whatever) because you think that's materialistic or "not spiritual". That's your ego talkin' there, darlin. Let your heart want what it wants. Let it lean where it leans. Explore and investigate. Love a Kardashian? Explore it -- what is it about her you dig? That she's got a huge following? (Maybe that's an indication you want to make a big impact). That she's hot? Maybe that's an clue that you need to amp up your own sexiness and take more pride in your own appearance. That she's on the cover of magazines? Maybe it's a clue that you're ready to be the star of your own life.
No judging. Just noticing. Just curiosity. Take these exercises lightly. Play. Have fun. Give yourself permission to explore whatever your deepest desires and longings are prodding you to explore. Did I mention No Judging? ;)
3. Choose a Mentor
This is similar to the exercise above, but a little different.
A mentor is someone who has expertise and mastery in an area where you feel weak.
For example, if you want to become an entrepreneur, but don't know where to start -- ask yourself -- who do I know (literally or online or even in fiction) who's a super successful entrepreneur? Who would know that's a master in this area?
Example: Maybe Marie Forleo comes to mind. So you take on Marie Forleo as your mentor like this --
Close your eyes and take 3 deep breaths.
Drop down into your body and imagine the energy of Marie coming down upon you. Feel her around you and within you -- literally take on her energy. Notice how this feels in your body.
Now, with her energy around you, ask yourself, "If Marie were in my position, what would she do? What kinds of thoughts would she be thinking? What kind of resources might she be taking advantage of?"
See what pops up and write it down.
You can do this for ALL areas of your life -- Health, Finances, Relationships, Spirituality, Social/Play -- anything. Pick a mentor for each area of your life and call upon them to help you when you feel stuck.
Another way to approach this exercise is to write your mentor a letter describing your problem and then write back to yourself as your mentor with the answer.
4. The Happy Basket
Start a "Happy Basket" -- Start to notice things in your life -- images, things you see on social media, in magazines, on tv, conversations you have.... that tug at your soul or perk up your ears and tickle your curiosity. Write these things down and put them in a basket (or jar or whatever...). After a couple of weeks, take all the notes (or things you cut out of magazines) out of the basket and notice if there's a theme that emerges. Chances are, there will be and that thing will start to point you in the direction you're meant to move in.