Are you playing not to lose? Or playing to win?
What the heck is “playing not to lose”?
It’s when you take an action, but you’re secretly thinking, “God, I hope I don’t screw this up.” or “I hope I don’t look stupid.”
When you’re playing not to lose, you’re focused on the thing you don’t want to happen –
Which, if you’ve studied Law of Attraction, you know that what you focus on E X P A N D S.
And if you’re focused on the thing you don’t want to happen, it’s much more likely that that thing will actually happen.
So it might sound like this…
~I really want to put my offer on Facebook, but I don’t want to seem salesy or pushy.
You push yourself to post the offer, overthink what you’re going to say and sound like a used car life coachy person who doesn’t know what she’s talking about. 10 minutes later you delete the post because you feel stupid.
~That event sounds so cool and it’s going to be filled with my ideal clients, but I haven’t updated my website.
You talk yourself out of going to the event.
~You find yourself in an elevator with the editor of a big entrepreneur magazine. You want to tell her about your work, but you tell yourself, “I’m not far enough along. She’ll think I’m a nobody.”
She actually strikes up small talk with you, you briefly answer and then run out the door as soon as it opens.
These are all examples of playing not to lose.
You’re forecasting the worst possible outcome and then you are inviting into existence with your fear.
So what would it look like if you were Playing to Win?
~I really want to put my offer on Facebook, and I might be a little nervous, but I know I’m AH-MAZING at what I do and I’m just going to put myself out there and go for it.
You get a ton of Likes and 2 people respond wanting to chat with you about working together.
~That event sounds so cool and it’s going to be filled with my ideal clients, but I haven’t updated my website…. but who cares? I hardly ever go to someone’s website to get to know them AND, my website now is *good enough*. I don’t have to be perfect in order to move forward. I’m confident that my personality will shine through when I meet someone in person.
You go to the event, make some kick ass connections and set the foundation for future partnerships in your biz. Plus, someone wants to interview you for their podcast.
~You find yourself in an elevator with the editor of a big entrepreneur magazine. You want to tell her about your work. You’re nervous, but you compliment her on an article she recently wrote and introduce yourself.
She’s super open to the connection (and she likes the story of meeting someone in an elevator!), so she takes your info and says she’s interested in your work and keep in touch. She hands you her card.
See how that energy plays out differently?
Think about all of the opportunities you may be pushing away by bringing the energy of playing not to lose.
When you’re tuned into the energy of playing to win, you seize opportunities in front of you rather than making excuses as to why you’re not ready or you’re not enough.
Playing not to lose has everything to do with FEAR. Fear of being rejected, thought less of, put down, made fun of, fear of failure…. etc.
It stems from all the times in our lives where we were put down, or disappointed, got our heart broken, received a little tsk tsk or some side eye from someone we wanted to impress – there are so many incidents this energy can stem from – And it becomes our mission to find and tap through those events so we can get you back to your natural state, which is confidence.
I’m going to help you do that in my upcoming BETA course starting on January 28th. It’s called Mindset Blast Off™: Fuel Your Online Mission with the Power of Pro EFT™ Tapping.
It’s only $97. You save $700. (Yes, $700!)…
Because this is the premiere BETA round, you get a huge deal so I can get feedback to make the course even better moving forward.
It’s 6-weeks long and we’re launching January 28th. Learn more here. We’re going to have so much fun!!
I hope you’ll join us.
(You'll also get a full-length BONUS audio on "Are you Playing Not to Lose? Or Are you Playing to Win?" ... including an embarrassing example of HS heartbreak experienced by yours truly.)