This question keeps you stuck - Here's how to break free (+tapping script)

I've been riffing with my peeps about good and bad quality questions this week. (Did you know there was such a thing?)


Poor quality questions keep you stuck in the past.


Good quality questions help you take action and propel you forward.


Which ones are you asking yourself?


Here are a couple examples of POOR Quality Questions:


    ~Why is this happening to me?

    ~Why do I keep repeating this stupid pattern?

    ~How come I can't get this right?

    ~Why do I feel so behind?

    ~Why can't I stop this compare and despair?


Notice how all of those questions are "WHY" questions.


WHY questions will always have you looking in the rearview mirror dissecting every thought, every action, every perceived mistake. So guess where WHY questions keep you?


That's right. In the past.


If you want to stay motivated and on track, it's important to ask yourself better questions.


Here are some example of POWERFUL Questions (aka: GOOD Quality Questions):


~What can I learn from this?

~If I could break this pattern, what would that look like?

~What does "right" mean?

~What would it look and feel like if there was no such thing as "behind"? How would my life be different? How would I feel in my body?

~What are 3 things I can acknowledge myself for today? What's the upside to staying in my own lane?


Do you notice a difference in how you feel?


If you want a POWERFUL life and business, you've GOT to ask yourself POWERFUL questions.


It really is a matter of perspective.


The more we ruminate about the past and ask why why why, the less progress we make and the worse we tend to feel about ourselves. Asking yourself poor quality questions is like trying to drive your car with the emergency break on. {tweet}


Now, this practice isn't always easy peasy -- and it takes effort and practice. Especially if you've gotten yourself into the habit of asking WHY.


The truth is, there are some really tough situations and events that happen in our lives that we may never understand why. And that sucks. And it's ok to let it suck.


But we have to cultivate a warrior mindset that lets us forgive what happened (without knowing why -- at least for now) and having the fucking courage to move forward powerfully anyway.


You can waste your whole life in the WHY.


And it's a dangerous place to go. (Of course you can let yourself wander, but it's vital to build the muscle of training your brain to come back to the present, focus on the HOW and the WHAT and drop your ties to the past.)


The HOW and the WHAT questions will put you back in CHOICE. It will give you back the power that is currently leaking into your past.


This was a real challenge for me after being hit by the car. There was so much residual mess and so many deep life-altering why questions I felt compelled to ask.


But I got sick of that story. I got sick of those questions. And I wanted to be free of the past more than I wanted to understand it. That's why I started asking myself better questions and beginning to loosen my grip on the past.


From that place, I was able to move across the country and start my own business.


What might be possible for you if you let go of the WHY questions? (see what I did there? ;)


If you feel like you're stuck in the past and are white knuckling your way to freedom and the life and business you crave, I invite you to set up a time to chat with me on the house. Together, we can break the grip that your past has on you and propel you into a future that is better than you can even imagine.


You can set up that call here.




PS: Below, I've shared a short tapping script to help get you out of the WHY questions and into what's possible for you. Take some deep breaths, grab some water and tap through the points.

Let me know what comes up for you/ how you feel in the comments! Are you asking yourself Good Quality Questions??

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Tapping out of the WHY Questions and into What's Possible

(a downloadable diagram and video of me showing you the points are available in my private FB group)

Even though there are all these WHY questions I'm asking... And they're keeping me from being fully present in my life in the present... And there's a part of me that doesn't want to let this go, I love honor and acknowledge all of my parts


Even though these questions are keeping me stuck in the past... And they're keeping me from moving forward in the way I really want to -- And there's a part of me that doesn't want to let this go -- Maybe bc I NEED answers. And what happened just doesn't make sense and I can't just let it go -- And I want to get to the bottom of this and learn to love all my parts.


Even though these questions are keeping me tied to my past... And they're keeping me from fulfilling my life's work and just letting go and being present with myself and my lfe -- And they're keeping me from having peace of mind... And there's this part of me that has no interest in ever letting this go -- Maybe bc I can't move forward without knowing why things happened the way they did. Or maybe someone needs to be held accountable for what happened and I'm the one who does that. And I want to learn to love, honor and acknoweldge all of my parts, especially the ones that don't want to loosen their grip on the past.

All these WHY questions

They keep me in the past

I need to know why things happened the way they did

Or I can't move forward

I need to know

It doesn't make sense

And I can't just let it go

People need to be held accountable for what they did

I need to be held accountable for what I did

And I can't just let that go


I can't forgive my past

And there's a part of me that wants to let this go

No there's not

I need to punish myself by holding on to this energy

No I don't.

Yes I do.

I can't let this go

I want to let this go

It feels impossible to let this go

I want to be free

All these WHY questions holding me in the past


I'm letting these questions go

I'm willing to think about the past differently

I want to be free more than I want to keep feeling so bad about the past

So much stuff

I wish it could have happened differently

I wish I could go back and do it differently

But it happened

And today I have the ability to make new choices

And I am going to choose to make empowering choices

That include more empowering questions


I'm ready to focus on what's possible for me

I'm ready to let go of the past stuff that's been holding me back

I am so strong

And so capable

And so amazing

And I know I can create the future I desire

Letting go of any remaining resistance to letting go of the past

And moving into the mindset of how can I learn from the past and move forward powerfully?

It's possible

I'm ready

In every cell of my body.