Ever notice that when you start to move out of your comfort zone, you immediately want to shrink back down and re-enter it?
Can I be honest with you for a sec?
It's fucking scary out there sometimes.
Here's what I want you to know --
Fear is normal.
Expanding (putting yourself "out there") and contracting (getting "small" and not taking action or being visible) is a normal part of the process.
I get fucking scared out there.
I say the wrong thing and trip over my words all the time.
I'm afraid of what people will think.
I'm afraid of my own power.
And I just keep going out there anyway.
I keep putting one foot in front of the other.
I keep taking action.
I keep being consistent.
I stay in the motherfucking arena because that's what I am here to do.
And through doing that, ... things have become just mildly less scary lately.
I feel more confident.
More sure of myself and my message.
And whenever I feel the need to shrink down, I meditate. I tap. I breathe. I get outside. I walk. I take a yoga class. I call a friend.
It's an ebb and flow process -- just like the breath -- inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale.
When I think of this ebb and flow, I'm always reminded of the jellyfish at the Monterey Aquarium. If you've never seen them -- boy are they magnificent little creatures!
But that's what they do-- they expand and get SUPER BIG -- like they're giving it everything they've got -- Like the biggest inhale with arms wide open, chest up, chin up, head up to the sky -- And then.... they contract. They exhale. They bring it all back in. Knees to forehead. Arms wrapped around legs. Small. Compact.
It's so beautiful. And it feels just like the process of expanding and contracting in your own life and business.
If you feel like you're in that cycle of expand/ contract -- like you're taking forward action, gaining momentum and then pulling back -- it's ok.
Depending on how much of a leap out of your comfort zone your expansion is, it may take a few days or even a week or more to get your bearings and come back to center again before you want to take another action.
It's a process.
What I can tell you is this --
That the more support you have, the more consistent you're going to be with your actions and the faster the results you're going to see in your life.
If every time you step out of your comfort zone, you curl back up into a ball and let Fear overtake you, it's going to take a long time to really start moving at a good clip.
That's why it's so important to have a tribe.
Your tribe can let you know that you've simply entered into the Fear End of the pool and it's normal to be a little freaked out.
When you have other people telling you that it's normal -- and hey, they've been there too -- and hey, it's all good. It's all gonna be ok and just let that fear be and you'll be able to withstand it and keep going. And dude, we've got you. -- I can't tell you what a difference that makes.
Also, it's vital to know where you're own limiting beliefs are popping up.
If you don't, they will get you every single time and you won't be able to move forward at all.
You will be stuck in that expand/contract cycle where you're expanding the same amount and contracting the same amount again and again and again, over and over and over, rather than expanding outside the bounds of your own previous expansion and stretching past the edges of your own thinking.
That's why it's also important to have a coach for support. Even a handful of sessions can really shine a light on your blindspots -- and once you have awareness, you will be able to start seeing where those LBs pop up and try to get you.
With awareness, you'll be able to make a newer, more empowering choice so you can circumvent the fear and step into your power.
See, I used to think that when the Fear came up, it meant I was broken. That there was something innately wrong with me. That what I wanted was too big for me. That I must have done something wrong because the universe seems to be against me.
I had to do a lot of my own work around those limiting beliefs. I got to the root of where they originated and I cleared them through tapping and started expanding beyond them.
That's where I got my own power back.
That's where I got the courage to keep moving forward even with my fear. That's when my life started to change.
Because now I know that Fear isn't about me. It just is. It doesn't mean anything about me, it doesn't mean I've done something wrong, am someone wrong, or just can't do it right.
Fear is just along for the ride and quite frankly it's not that big of a deal anymore.
Now that I understand how all of my funky limiting beliefs and ego-based fears were just trying to keep me safe, I no longer let them sneak up and sabotage me.
It's still an ebb and flow, but mostly it's rhythmic and fluid rather than choppy and scary.
Are you making yourself wrong for your own ebbs and flows, Karen? Or are you able to move with the energy of your life and business, trusting the process and how you're showing up within it?