Let it simmer and let it go

Those who interfere in the processes disrupt them.
Those who hold tightly to possession lose everything.
Wise people succeed because they never force an outcome.
They never suffer a loss, because they are not attached to anything

~Tao Te Ching


Passion is gripping.

Being pulled by your vision is rapturously exciting.

Feeling single focused on one project that won't stop calling you is exhilarating.

I've felt that numerous times over the course of starting my business and lately, I've been feeling it in a big way again.

Business energy and aliveness ebbs and flows just like life.

Sometimes it's up, sometimes it's down, sometimes it feels like it's disappeared and sometimes it just fucking grips you and pulls you forward.

What's interesting is that I just had a time that was a bit of a downturn. I started feeling uninspired and disconnected from what I was doing. I was having second thoughts about a lot of things because something felt off... and I couldn't put my finger on what it was.

What I did know is that I'd been working a lot. I'd been pouring my heart and soul into what I was doing and yet, something wasn't feeling quite right.

When that happens, I know it's time to take a step back. Regroup. Recharge. Reassess.

Let it simmer.

Letting it simmer isn't easy for me as a Type A who likes to GO GO GO (hi, Capricorn moon...) but I knew intuitively that charging forth with even more energy was the exact thing I should not be doing.


So I let it simmer and let go.

I stopped creating.

I stopped posting on Instagram.

I stopped Scoping.

I barely posted on my FB biz page.

I turned the dial way down so I could.... simmer.

I didn't know how long I'd need to simmer... I just knew simmering was in order.

And simmering means doing anything but working on my business.

Simmering means giving my mind and body and attention a break. Time to breathe. Time to let things settle and tune into silence and stillness. Time to read magazines, watch The Voice and read fiction books.

I had no idea how long I would need to simmer.

I just gave myself full permission to let it take as long as it takes.


My fear was that the disconnect I was feeling would lead to stopping. Quitting. Putting everything down for an indefinite period of time and taking up chocolate-making in the south of France.

(a secret dream for my next life...)

But honestly, I had to actually let that be an option.

Because if my heart isn't involved in what I'm doing, then I cannot do it.

And my heart was feeling uninvolved. Disinterested. Aloof.

(Sidenote: I'm a hard core Leo. If it's not 100% heart, I'm 100% not doing it.)


My simmering period took about 2 weeks before I felt an inspired (and seemingly random) action.

It was play.

(something I have to force upon myself from time to time, even though my logical mind knows how important it is!)

I started playing with something online and got a whiff of enthusiasm and excitement.


I had no idea where it was taking me, but I liked what I was feeling and followed that feeling.


What happened is that I found something in myself and my business that I hadn'tyet discovered yet. Something that renewed my enthusiasm and passion.

It made me feel more alive than I had in quite a while and now this thing is directing how my business will move going forward.

I'm thrilled.

And I have the silence, stillness and simmer-y-ness to thank.


We have to let our bodies lead.


When we push forward without any real connection or understanding as to why... or if something just feels a little "off".... or we feel like we're moving too fast -- those are all signals to slow down. Breathe. Relax. Let go. Allow. And simmer.

You never know where simmering may take you (or not take you), but it's a vital practice to stay in the flow of who you are and where your beautiful life wants to take you.


Where your life wants to take you may not be where your logical mind wants you to go. (tweet tweet) But it will always take you to a place that is connected, alive, brimming with energy and light and just feels right. Like you.

Your only job is to trust it.

I'll let you in on what came up in my simmering soon. In the meantime, check in with yourself and see if there's any pushing, forcing and Go-Go-Go'ing that could use a simmer-setting instead.

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Hit me up below in the comments:
Are you forcing something that could use a little simmering? Where in your life is that showing up?