I was in a lot of fear this week.
Fear that was telling me I wasn't good enough.
Hadn't accomplished enough.
Wasn't far enough along.
Hadn't worked hard enough (or smart enough).
Fear told me I was less than because that person got that opportunity, that person was prettier, that person was more confident and that person was more successful.
Why tell you this? ....
Can you relate to any of the following?
~Thinking about all of the negative things that could possibly happen in the future – catastrophizing about the worst case scenario.
~Feeling like you’re in a constant state of fear &/or worry – like someone pushed the “On” button and you can’t find the “Off” button
~Stuck in perfection-itis – where you can’t seem to get things out in the world because you’re always finding another thing that’s wrong or needs to be fixed. You have to wait until it’s “just right” to move forward.
~Not being able to clearly identify what you want or where you want to go
~Not being able to trust others and feeling like you need to do everything yourself (probably because no one else would do it right!)
These are all symptoms of being ruled by your past.
In families, we tend to get a branded identity.
Maybe you're "the creative one" or "the smart one."
Or maybe you're "the rebel" or "the black sheep."
That label became who you thought yourself to be in the world.
Now, sometimes branding can be positive, like in the case of "the creative one" or "the smart one."
But if you've been branded something negative or some other sibling was branded as the thing that you wanted to be, you might just be a little pissed off and/or resentful and/or quite sad that you're simply not that.
It's easy to get to this time of year and think, "Oh, well.... I didn't get to where I wanted to be and it's already September (!), so I'll just wind down, call this year done and wait til January to start again."
What would you most love to complete/ accomplish/ experience/ try before the clock strikes 12? ...
You know, I used to LOVE the idea of “getting out of your box” and leaving your comfort zone and dreaming big –
And of course, part of me still does!
I am a huge proponent of ginormous and crazy dreams.
But I'm also a huge proponent of staying inside of your proverbial box.
See, what happens when you're "in a box" and then try to "Dream Big!" or "leap out of your comfort zone" into some whole new reality that you've never known or experienced before is that you completely freak yourself out....
How open are you to receive? (I mean like -- really fucking receive.)
At what point do you become uncomfortable with the goodness in your life?
At what point do you say -- "Oh, no, that's ok, I'm good -- I have enough."
Just like money, we all have a "Love Thermostat" ....
How hard are you making your business?
Do you feel like you’re working 24/7 and never get a break?
There’s a really common LB (Limiting Belief) that pops up for my clients (and myself, let’s be real.) that says, “Life is hard.”
If you are running around in your life and biz with this belief that “Life is hard,” then guess what? Things are gonna be h.a.r.d....
I've been riffing with my peeps about good and bad quality questions this week. (Did you know there was such a thing?)
Poor quality questions keep you stuck in the past.
Good quality questions help you take action and propel you forward.
Which ones are you asking yourself?
Here are a couple examples of POOR Quality Questions:
Every single one of my extroverted tendencies have been cultivated and practiced carefully, meticulously and thoughtfully.
Growing up, I was one of the shyest kids in class. I never raised my hand, I barely spoke and I would always get report card comments like, “Gets along well with others” and “very nice.”
Yeah.
I was talking with a client this week (I’ll call her Lilly) who was terrified of taking the next action in her career.
She’s been working in the same gig for quite some time, a freelance creative position, but it’s no longer working for her.
She’s not getting paid enough, she doesn’t get the respect she deserves and it’s making her question who she is and what she’s really worth.
Because she’s been doing the work, she knew that the fear of stepping up and moving to the next level of her work was about more than just fear...
