It's never going to be the right time.

It's never going to be the right time to publish your new website, create (or launch) your first course, change jobs, say yes to an opportunity, talk to the shop owner, write your manuscript, move to Italy, crank out 5 fresh new videos, go blonde... etc. ....

Did you know that self sabotage serves a purpose??

Yes, it does!

It keeps us safe and it protects us.

 I know it sounds crazy -- but the any behavior we exhibit as a "hall pass" to avoid another (healthier) behavior actually just wants to keep us safe.

You know, I used to LOVE the idea of “getting out of your box” and leaving your comfort zone and dreaming big –

And of course, part of me still does!

I am a huge proponent of ginormous and crazy dreams.

But I'm also a huge proponent of staying inside of your proverbial box.

See, what happens when you're "in a box" and then try to "Dream Big!" or "leap out of your comfort zone" into some whole new reality that you've never known or experienced before is that you completely freak yourself out....

How much love can you stand?
 

How open are you to receive? (I mean like -- really fucking receive.)

At what point do you become uncomfortable with the goodness in your life?

At what point do you say -- "Oh, no, that's ok, I'm good -- I have enough."

Just like money, we all have a "Love Thermostat" ....

How hard are you making your business?

Do you feel like you’re working 24/7 and never get a break?

There’s a really common LB (Limiting Belief) that pops up for my clients (and myself, let’s be real.)  that says, “Life is hard.”

If you are running around in your life and biz with this belief  that “Life is hard,” then guess what? Things are gonna be h.a.r.d....

WHEN YOU'RE EXPANDING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE, THINGS ARE GOING TO GET UNCOMFORTABLE...

I've been riffing with my peeps about good and bad quality questions this week. (Did you know there was such a thing?)

Poor quality questions keep you stuck in the past.

Good quality questions help you take action and propel you forward.

Which ones are you asking yourself?

Here are a couple examples of POOR Quality Questions:

Every single one of my extroverted tendencies have been cultivated  and practiced carefully, meticulously and thoughtfully.

Growing up, I was one of the shyest kids in class. I never raised my hand, I barely spoke and I would always get report card comments like, “Gets along well with others” and “very nice.”

Yeah.

I was talking with a client this week (I’ll call her Lilly) who was terrified of taking the next action in her career.

She’s been working in the same gig for quite some time, a freelance creative position, but it’s no longer working for her.

She’s not getting paid enough, she doesn’t get the respect she deserves and it’s making her question who she is and what she’s really worth.

Because she’s been doing the work, she knew that the fear of stepping up and moving to the next level of her work was about more than just fear...

Ever notice that when you start to move out of your comfort zone, you immediately want to shrink back down and re-enter it?

OMG.

ME TOO.

Can I be honest with you for a sec? ....

Do you ever worry about what everyone thinks about you? Afraid you’re not doing it right or like everyone else thinks you should be doing it?

What thoughts are running on repeat in your mind? Are they thoughts you want to be thinking? Or do they feel like they're just a running tape you listen to and obey? A stream of unconsciousness that you wish you could just turn off?

I’ve been working on a new project that’s pretty much complete – but I can’t show it to you yet because, well, …technology!

LOL. (and arrrrrrrghhhh....)

Have you ever had this problem? (Not turning into Captain Jack Sparrow.... though, interesting problem to have...  I'm talking about tech problems.)

If you're like me and most of my clients, your family has some pretty strong expectations about who you should be and what you should do in the world.

But in order to live a fully actualized life -- to do what your soul came here to do, it's important to recognize these expectations so that you can break free from them.

You are allowed to make money teaching someone something that you yourself are in the process of learning.

You don't have to be perfect. (And you never will be.) So why not just go for it? Oh right -- Who will they think I am?? They'll think I'm a fraud. They'll find me out. I'll be mortified....
 

People are going to judge you whether you play big or whether you play small. 
 

They're going to talk behind your back, make up stories that aren't true and try to make themselves feel better by finding fault in what you do and how you do it. 

Feeling hurt, disappointed, embarrassed, or like you're not sure if you're on the right path is NORMAL. It is NOT a reason to quit, think less of yourself or beat yourself up...

Business energy and aliveness ebbs and flows just like life.

Sometimes it's up, sometimes it's down, sometimes it feels like it's disappeared and sometimes it just fucking grips you and pulls you forward.

What's interesting is that I just had a time that was a bit of a downturn. I started feeling uninspired and disconnected from what I was doing. I was having second thoughts about a lot of things because something felt off... and I couldn't put my finger on what it was.

What old story, old belief, or old relationship are you holding onto that’s weighing you down? Are you willing to let it go?