If we want to create wealth, why would we want to stop and look at the times when things got a little (or maybe a lot) messy?
It's really easy to get distracted when you're building your business.
You've got website stuff to do, copy to re-write, pictures to edit, clients to follow up with, laundry, grocery shopping, kids, workouts, webinars, Instagram pics to create, outreach calls and emails to write, political action steps to take, and let's not forget This Is Us to watch and bubble baths to take!
There are many ways sabotage can show up in relation to your money.
But there's one that I haven't talked about that I think is really important to address.
It's jumping from one idea to the next to the next.... without ever actually seeing any one thing to completion.
Your swampy area always wants you to focus on the "next biggest and best thing."
Swampy Area: (noun): the place in your mind that holds all the hidden programming, beliefs and stories holding you back from what you really want …..
Resistance can be a tricky thing --
Oftentimes we convince ourselves we don't have any or worse, we tell ourselves to ignore the feeling altogether. (That only makes it stronger. Doesn't make it go away!)
I want to share one question that can help you find out if you've got resistance around what you say you want.
I've been having a lot of conversations around limiting beliefs lately.
One of the things that's been coming up is around things being easy versus making them hard.
One of the biggest limiting beliefs (that I have had to work on with the most consistency) is that I have to work REALLY hard to get things to work. I can't tell you how many times things were going great in an area of my life and then BOOM -- I throw in a freekin' monkey wrench to make things more difficult for myself.
I've said this before, but it bears repeating --
LIMITING BELIEFS FEEL LIKE FACTS.
Are you playing not to lose? Or playing to win?
What the heck is “playing not to lose”?
It’s when you take an action, but you’re secretly thinking, “God, I hope I don’t screw this up.” or “I hope I don’t look stupid.”
When you’re playing not to lose, you’re focused on the thing you don’t want to happen –
Which, if you’ve studied Law of Attraction, you know that what you focus on E X P A N D S.
And if you’re focused on the thing you don’t want to happen, it’s much more likely that that thing will actually happen.
Today I wanted to call BS on your new year's resolution. It's said that only 8% of people actually keep their resolutions and I want to give you one powerful question that will let you know if you're going to reach yours.
First, you need to write yours down or say it out loud.
Ok, did you do that? :)
Now I want you to rate how TRUE your goal feels to you. Notice if there is ANY part of you calling bullshit on what you said or wrote.
If there is, you're not in alignment with what you say you want....
I was working with a client this week I'll call Ann.
Ann has been really overwhelmed lately. Rather than kicking back and relaxing this holiday season, she's been amping it up.
She's cleared a ton of old beliefs around not feeling safe to be visible, around feeling worthy of what she really wants (not what she thought she could get or what would be "acceptable" for the kind of person she used to think she was) and around feeling safe to set boundaries (particularly around saying no to plans that aren't a "hell yes" or aren't in alignment with what she's currently working on).
But she's all like -- "Karen, I am so overwhelmed. All of this stuff that's happening is completely amazing and I don't know how I'm going to do it all in the time I have. And it's the holidays!"
Now, this is a good challenge to have in business, but it's still a challenge...
If you've worked "regular jobs" for most of your life (or are still in one), you're used to "rules" and bosses and designated breaks and people telling you what to do.
We've been trained to just show up, even if we don't like it.
And yet, when it comes to our own businesses, consistency of showing up and doing the work can often feel like one of the hardest parts...
I had some really cool opportunities pop up this past week.
Two people reached out from 2 different outlets and asked me if I'd be interested in collaborating.
And then I got 2 more opportunites the very next day that are of an even bigger caliber and I am going to have the potential to reach a lot of people.
It's pushing me to the edge of my comfort zone, which is not very comfortable!
Today, I want to talk about how this happened.
If you're showing up with the energy of fear, fear is what your people are going to feel.
The fact of the matter is, you don't know whether or not your thing will sell until after you put it out into the world. HOWEVER, there are a number of different ways you can make the sale of your product/service much more likely -- one of which is SHOE SALE ENERGY....
I was in a lot of fear this week.
Fear that was telling me I wasn't good enough.
Hadn't accomplished enough.
Wasn't far enough along.
Hadn't worked hard enough (or smart enough).
Fear told me I was less than because that person got that opportunity, that person was prettier, that person was more confident and that person was more successful.
Why tell you this? ....
Can you relate to any of the following?
~Thinking about all of the negative things that could possibly happen in the future – catastrophizing about the worst case scenario.
~Feeling like you’re in a constant state of fear &/or worry – like someone pushed the “On” button and you can’t find the “Off” button
~Stuck in perfection-itis – where you can’t seem to get things out in the world because you’re always finding another thing that’s wrong or needs to be fixed. You have to wait until it’s “just right” to move forward.
~Not being able to clearly identify what you want or where you want to go
~Not being able to trust others and feeling like you need to do everything yourself (probably because no one else would do it right!)
These are all symptoms of being ruled by your past.
In families, we tend to get a branded identity.
Maybe you're "the creative one" or "the smart one."
Or maybe you're "the rebel" or "the black sheep."
That label became who you thought yourself to be in the world.
Now, sometimes branding can be positive, like in the case of "the creative one" or "the smart one."
But if you've been branded something negative or some other sibling was branded as the thing that you wanted to be, you might just be a little pissed off and/or resentful and/or quite sad that you're simply not that.